21 Ways to Love Your Neighbor


God commands us to love one another.

  • John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

He even commands us to love our enemies.                                                           

  • Matthew 5:43-44
    “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you…”

How do we Love?

But how do we do that exactly? How do we love when we don’t feel loved and don’t feel like loving? I fall back on another equally powerful verse.

  • Matthew 7:12 “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you…”

Denying ourselves so we can love someone else is incredibly unnatural. But, loving one another is a command, not a request

Loving one another is as simple as thinking not about ourselves and what we need, and instead focusing on someone else and their wants and needs. Admittedly, this can be tough to do. But God didn’t say obeying his commands would always be easy.

Denying ourselves so we can love someone else is incredibly unnatural. But, loving one another is a command, not a request. And if we are going to be disciples of Jesus Christ, we must strive to obey His commands as if He really IS our Lord…not just our Savior.

So, I asked my 9 year old daughter Ashley to write a list of 21 ways to love your neighbor. It’s always fun to get inside the head of a child, and she LOVES making lists. She’s even started a “list club” for daddy’s blog. How cute, right? Anyway, here is her list.

“21 Ways to Love Your Neighbor” – a list by Ashley Lauren White

  1. Walk their dog when they are not home
  2. Give them hugs when I see them
  3. Give them refreshments
  4. Give a gift basket by the door for their B-day
  5. If someone is hurt, you can help them
  6. Give them your full attention if spoken to
  7. Let them borrow your stuff if they need to
  8. If they are carrying something heavy, help them
  9. If they’re sick, help around the house for them
  10. Help them by setting out the table if they are resting
  11. Keep their house clean if they’re on vacation
  12. If put in charge of their house, don’t forget to clean
  13. Say “please” and “thank you” if given something
  14. Give them chocolate and a get well soon card if sick
  15. Offer to babysit their child
  16. Give them a compliment
  17. Give them a warm welcome when they come home
  18. Wash dishes
  19. Water the plants
  20. Clean the pool
  21. Give them a massage

Numbers 2, 6, 13, and 17 are my favorites.

How do you Love your Neighbor?

Use the comments below to tell us your favorites, and add to Ashley’s list of ways to love your neighbor. Ask your kids for help if you struggle for some ideas.

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    I always see an image of Christ in every body. I always ask myself if I can do to Christ what I am doing to my neighbor. I will always greet, share and give a helping hand to my neighbor among other things.

  2. alan leonard says

    What a great list by a 9 year old. . . great kid there. Love your enemy. . . love your neighbor as yourself. . . love brothers and sisters as Jesus loves us. Such simple commands but how difficult to be that kind of person in Christ in genuine ways. Years ago used to be heavily involved in the missions part of the church we attended, meaning mainly foreign missions. . . bringing the gospel to the unreached around the world. I admired the testimony and sacrifice of so many men and women who gave their lives. . . and still do. However, realized that it is too easy to ‘love’ people who are far away, and my devotion to missions merely disguised the reality that I didn’t really love others that much at all. . . at least not enough to walk down my street and tell my neighbor about the life and hope found in Jesus. Replaced my devotion to missions with a devotion to evangelism, learned the EE program and every week a group of us went to doors with the gospel. But found that learning the Evangelism Explosion system of talking about the gospel, while giving a skill in presentation, largely left my heart untouched. Have found that to truly be that kind of person that Jesus calls for is only found in being alive in Christ in genuine ways. . . that Christ is present in living ways within. And that is only possible by denying myself, taking up my cross and following Him. I have so far to go, and I fail often, but I know that in Christ such genuineness is possible.

  3. Carol says

    “I always see an image of Christ in everyone. I always ask myself if I can do to Christ what I am doing to my neighbor.” Thank you so much for this practical strategy. I love its lack of clutter and how it beelines right to the point. Bless you.

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